Quarantine Day 35: Psychological examinations of the house-hold
Hi everyone,
As you know I am a cognitive scientist and I can’t seem to help but over-analyse certain situations and people. Poor Tommy, I have been only with him over a month in the house so he has been hearing a lot of of analysis on psychology and us. It can’t be easy but he puts up with me. So thanks for that. Instead of writing a whole blog of my emotions etc. today I will be just mentioning some things I have noticed and somethings I can suggest couples living in the same house hold 24/7 as it can be hard if the right balance is not found.
Give yourself, and only yourself minimum of 2-3 hours in a day to be on your own. If you have a small house use headphones and do your own activity, without your partner in sight.
Write things down. By writing stuff down you will feel like you are talking to someone ( exactly what I am doing now) and bother your partner less of constant conversation demanding if they just don’t feel like talking right now.
Everyone has to step in for the house chores and cleaning. Living in the house 24/7 for weeks takes its toll on dish washing and dusting. Make sure you step in to sometimes just simply wiping a table without your partner reminding you.
If you can’t seem to come to a joint decisions over small things toss a coin, or arrange your wants in order. Such as “this time your decision, and second time mine”. This will help stop unnecessary arguments resulted from the stress we are all living.
Sitting together doesn’t mean spending quality time together sometimes. If you can sense that your partner is trying to communicate give your attention. You are the only one he/she has.
Talk about your favourite memories! Even for 5 minutes this will re-wire your brain.
Mediate or workout. This could be 30 mins a day. This isn’t important for keeping in shape but it is important to give your brain a break from thinking about the outer world.
If anymore comes to mind, I will post them.
See ya x